When Should You Have Sex?

Sex@Anytime Please
Have you ever really fancied a guy and at some point on the first few dates ended up having sex?

Have you then found yourself waiting for his text or call and you struggle to think of anything else but him?

Well, we've all been there and the trouble with sex is that as soon as it happens we become emotionally attached and those rose tinted specs are fixed firmly in place!

Does this story ring any bells? It's taken from my book above.

Gloria had been dating online recently and had been out with two guys. One was named Jason and the other Philip.

She and Jason “hit it off” right away as she put it. She came to me seeking advise and described her first date with him. Gloria said they went to dinner and had some drinks. They laughed all night and teased each other quite a bit. The banter was easy and jovial and they didn't talk about anything too serious. She said she had a blast because it was all just so light and comfortable.

At the end of the night, Jason didn't want to go home yet because he said he was having such a great time he didn't want to leave. Neither did Gloria so she invited him over for a night cap and well, yep, they ended up in bed and having sex.

Jason said he would like to see her again the following weekend and they texted a few times during the week. When the weekend approached, Jason said he forgot he had to help a friend paint his new kitchen and couldn't meet up.

Problem was, that happened quite a few times thereafter and the only times that she saw Jason over the next few weeks was when she would go over to his house for a movie and, you may have guessed it…sex.

She really liked Jason she said and was disappointed that he was too busy to go out. She also wished he would call a bit more often but hey, people get busy right? So she hung on to the hope that he'd contact her and want to be with her but then he didn't call for 10 days straight so one night when she was feeling upset she sent him a text asking what had happened and if they were still on and a while later he replied ‘Sorry babe, been meaning to call you but it's been so busy. You're a great girl but I think it's best if we just stay friends.'

Well... I have heard this story time and time again. Gloria became so attached to Jason because she slept with him before she really knew him. And the hard truth is that Jason either didn't want a relationship right now or he didn't feel strongly enough for Gloria to start a relationship with her, but yes, he was happy to take the sex on offer and have a good time while it lasted.

So, if you want to safeguard your emotions in a new relationship, WAIT until you can really get to know a guy before having sex.
And remember:

If he likes you, he will wait. If he doesn't want to wait,
he's probably not that into you.

I am sure that there is an exception out there but I haven't met him. I have NEVER in my life met a man that was actually interested in me but wasn't willing to wait to have sex, EVER.

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About The Author
I've discovered some amazing insights and I'm sharing all the all the tools and information it's taken me years to create so that you can see what's been keeping you single, and know how to find a great guy that is ready to love and be loved.
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Sharon Vickery

Make your own sex toys

A little imagination goes a long way (but not too far without some means of retrieval, or you could hurt yourself).

Once you're in a horny headspace anything can become grist for your erotic mill. The ordinarily mundane world of household objects can become erogenous wonderland of exciting possibilities.

Think Literally
The most obvious route is to find something phallic and use it as a dildo or butt-plug (depending on size). This presumably is why God invented bananas, cucumbers, and zucchinis. But don't limit yourself to this. Spanking pinching, stroking, tickling, and tying are all erotic techniques, so think literally. A hair brush can be used to spank, and then turned over to scratch (be gentle though!). Clothes pegs could become nipple clamps. Sexy lingerie makes for erotic blindfolds or wrist ties.

Go Electric
There are plenty of domestic power sources you can use in order to supercharge your sexual thrills.
1. A washing machine on full spin cycle could provide the motion in your ocean...lol.
2. Try this. Stick a zucchini on the end of an electric toothbrush and voila, instant vibrating dildo.
3. And never underestimate the orgasmic potency of a well-directed shower head, who hasn't done that?

Be Safe
All in all be safe when your having fun. Don't become the subject of the next doctors dine out. Don't become the the star of the mysterious patient story of how the light bulb got stuck in your butt.

Taking off the panties after hello?

How Many Dates Should I Wait Until I Have Sex?

Dear friend, are you dating a great guy who's everything you're hoping for? Has he suggested or tried to get more intimate with you? Do you feel conflicted between waiting for sex and just going for it? Do you have the fear that he might dump you right after sex? How long should a woman wait before she has sex with someone? If you have any of the above questions, this is the article you must read. It will answer your questions.

As discouraging as it sounds, the reality is that the majority of men will disappear, if you have sex with him too early and too soon. Sometimes, guys will tell your stories of how they had a successful long-term relationship with a woman who they slept with on the first date. You may think that he's different. But what he's not telling you is the other 99 women he never called again, after sex.

With all that being said, what's a good period of time to wait? How long is long enough? The rule of thumb is 2 months of regular dating. By regular dating, I mean meeting at least once per week for a proper date. And you should see some sincere efforts from his part to take you out for the more important Friday or Saturday night dates.

After 2 months of regular dating, it should be quite clear to the man that you're selective and don't just sleep with anyone. I sometimes even tell my girlfriends to wait for 3 months, just to be sure. Although you should definitely wait for sex, during the 2 months of regular dating, you should be physically affectionate. You can hug him, kiss him, and cuddle with him. Let him know that you're a passionate woman, even though you're selective.


Ladies, you're a grown-up woman and you can do whatever you want. But, a smart woman, even in her most passionate moment, always considers how men think and asks what is the most effective way to attract and keep a high quality man of her choice.